I had to share this article from a strong woman who's claim to fame is that she baby-sat me...lol. Seriously as someone with 4 younger sisters and as a father, I really enjoyed and appreciated this article. Please have a read:
I have been thinking a lot lately about girls/women with Daddy Issues. Seeing a video this past week of Lil Wayne’s song “How to Love” hit a soft spot as there are so many women walking around today that lack that unconditional love from Daddy. If you didn’t already know, a girls first love is her father. Daddy teaches her how to love, how to be loved, how to be treated by a man, how to be respected by a man, how to respect herself and demand respect in a relationship, how to value herself and know her worth as a woman, how to spot the players from afar and recognize the real men and the list goes on.
Daddy plays such a critical role in a girls childhood which can determine the course of a woman’s life. Girls who lack that bond, closeness, love and caring from their fathers oftentimes grow up to become women with serious Daddy issues. Classic signs of these issues are: women who are needy, insecure about themselves, have emotional hang ups, seek attention mainly from men, have low self esteem, lack of trust in men, and the most prominent sign is promiscuity..usually a girl who has not developed a good and strong relationship with her father will indeed sleep around in search of the love and bonding she didn’t receive from her father.
Unfortunately these issues are passed on to their relationships with their partners as they become adults. These women tend to look for the father figures they lacked growing up and this can be very destructive to a relationship. It is unfair to place that responsibility on any man in a relationship and is a sure sign that they are headed for a rocky road.
There are also those daddy issues that men face with absentee fathers but that is for another blog….In the Lil Wayne video it illustrates 2 scenarios; one where the young daughter is brought up by her mother in a unstable environment, with an absentee father in jail, and her Mom’s boyfriend molesting her. The daughter then grows up to be an unhappy woman, stripping to support her 3 children and basically leads a promiscuous lifestyle. In the second scenario the Mother gives up her daughter to her sister who lives a more stable lifestyle and she is able to experience real love, family, stability, and ultimate happiness. The outcome of her life is very different where her focus is on education and learning a trade. This video is indicative of what role parents play in the outcome of a child’s life. The decisions we make for our children make such a difference and have such a strong impact on what path our children take in life. This does not mean that in each circumstance that if we as parents do the right thing, and give our children unconditional love, affection and attention that they will always choose the right path in life, however giving them a solid loving foundation can only be the best possible start in life.
Fathers who are absent, negligent, abusive (verbally & physically), alcoholics, workaholics, tend to have daughters that develop daddy issues. The cycle is then passed on to another generation and surfaces as dysfunction within a family and corrupting any chance for a solid family foundation.
Fathers, love your girls unconditionally, show them by example how a woman should be treated and respected, boost their self esteem and self confidence, spend time with them, teach them to respect themselves and their bodies, let them know their worth, tell them they are beautiful, tell them they are smart and above all else tell them they deserve the BEST! This may not result in each instance with your daughter avoiding the many issues that accompany raising a child, however it will give her the best possible chance in life to avoid Daddy issues, experience real love, and carry that forward.
Fathers….Always remember you are your little girls first LOVE
Written by Lisa Charles
I am still in shock about a personal friend's passing. If you are also one in shock about this vibrant YOUNG woman and would like to show support or pay respect to the family. Please see the info below from her husband:
"I want to personally thank everyone for all the well wishes and so much love for my beautiful wife's passing. Here are the official details"
THURSDAY AUGUST 16, 2012
1st Viewing : 2pm - 4pm
2nd Viewing : 7pm - 9pm
McEachnie Funeral Home
28 Old Kingston Rd
Ajax, ON L1T 2Z7
FRIDAY AUGUST 17, 2012
Only Viewing : 5pm - 9pm
McEachnie Funeral Home
28 Old Kingston Rd
Ajax, ON L1T 2Z7
SATURDAY AUGUST 18, 2012
Royette Baptiste Celebration of Life Service
Pickering Pentecostal Church
The Gathering Place
1920 Bayly Street
(@ Squire Beach)
Royette Baptiste Celebration of Life Service Reception
Toronto Revellers Mas Camp
1001 Ellesmere Rd
(Under the bridge between Kennedy & Midland)
Also in lieu of flowers etc, please make donations for the Education fund of Ty Watson (Royette's son) to
TD Canada Trust
Acct # 327- 6420807
If you have any questions please call us at
FOR IMMEDIATE RELEASE
3 Sons Present, “SONS OF STEEL”
On Saturday, July 14, 2012, 3 Sons will be presenting the Sons of Steel Concert; it will feature Olujimi La Pierre (Boy Wonder) Earl La Pierre Jr (Extraordinary Steel Pannist ESP) and Noel La Pierre (Pan Groove Production PGP) they will all be backed by Bruce Skerritt and The Liamuiga Project.
Armenian Youth Centre Theatre
50 Hall Crown Place North York
Victoria Park & 401
Doors will open at 6:00pm – Showtime is 7:00pm sharp.
SOS---Sons of Steel: Three brothers who grew up in three different parts of the world, coming together for the first time to share their “Gift of Music”. Come and experience music that will soothe your soul.
Early Bird Tickets are only $25.00 from May 1, 2012 - June 1, 2012
Advance Tickets $30.00 online at Ticketgateway.com
Info: Earl (416) 953-0905 www.espjr.com
3 Sons present... The Sons of Steel
Since its inception, steel pan music has taken the world by storm, serenading communities with its unique sound. Originating from Trinidad & Tobago, the steel pan has made a positive and groundbreaking mark in the hearts of music lovers as it constantly breaks the mold of musical norm and expectations. Many incredible musicians find home within the sounds of the shiny steel drum as they continue to interpret and create musical scores out of a sheer passion for the instrument, technique and culture of the steel pan. Talented artists such as Duvone Stewart, Len Boogsie Sharpe etc. are leaders in the pan world and when one speaks of steelpan music, their names are not far behind. One name in particular though, spans through generations of pan players; that name is La Pierre.
The La Pierre family is not only a household name for pannists worldwide, but also a name that equates an exceptional dose of natural talent, passion and execution of steelpan music. To date, the La Pierre family has gifted 5 phenomenal steel pannists into the world, all of which have their own personal edge in how they express their love for the instrument. The La Pierre family nurtures solo careers on an international level, but are about to come together for the first time in concert as the 3 Sons of the pan family present “Sons of Steel”.
On July 14th, 2012, Noel, Earl Jr. & Olujimi La Pierre will take to the stage in their Canadian debut show of “Sons of Steel”. The event was created when the brothers saw a need for something new and fresh in the pan community. As individuals, each brother brings a different dynamic to the table, but as a unit the three combine to offer the past, present and future of steelpan. Noel, being the eldest brother takes his roots from traditional elements of pan playing. His International appeal has taken his solo career across the globe and his versatility on the pan enables him to entertain and educate the masses with ease. Earl Jr.’s playing style finds home within more contemporary song choices. Known as the Extraordinary Steel Pannist, his music transcends the stereotypical views on steelpan playing and allows steelpan to be more accessible and relatable to younger generations. Olujimi, the Boy Wonder, takes pan to new levels showcasing an uncanny understanding of musical theory and showmanship. His ability to effortlessly maneuver through scales and harmonies leaves his listeners in awe as he follows in the footsteps of La Pierre’s before him.
The “Sons of Steel” concert will debut in Toronto, Canada and continue touring in Trinidad as well as Cayman Islands with dates to be determined. Early bird tickets on sale now until June 1st for $25 (while quantities last) and advanced tickets will be available for $30. If you love music, you will love this show! With their shared passion for the art form, the 3 Sons will provide audiences with an evening to write home about and their steelpans will sing songs of sheer talent and entertainment, keeping people wanting more.